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Everything Happens for a Reason. Don’t Judge, But Open Your Mind to Infinite Possibilities

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Long ago, there lived an old farmer and his son. their most cherished possession was a horse —a beautiful stallion. But one day, father and son awoke to find it missing.The villagers gathered around and lamented their great loss. The farmersaid, “We shall see if this is good or if this is bad.”

After a week, the horse returned, with another female stallion. This time, the villagers praised the old man’s remarkable luck—he was now the wealthiest man in town! But the farmer again said, “We shall see if this is good or if this is bad.”

One day, while riding the new horse, the son fell off and broke both legs badly. The villagers bemoaned the family’s terrible misfortune. Again, the farmer said, “We shall see if this is good or if this is bad.”

The next week, soldiers marched into the village. A war was underway, and all young men were to be taken from the village into battle. But because of his broken legs, the farmer’s son was left behind. The villagers envied the farmer’s good fortune! The old farmer smiled and said nothing at all.

I am sure of all us can relate to the everyday ups and downs in life. Some days, everything just seems to go our way and other days, our luck ‘seems to be down’. In the story,the farmer remains calm and centered, no matter what the event- calamity or joyous is manifesting in the world around him.

Think about an event that might have happened recently in your life. It can be either an event you judged as bad or an event you judged as very lucky. Notice that the old farmer does not judge. In his place of centeredness, he reserves judgment. Everyone around him expresses views of whether an event is good or bad. He is not influenced by them.

Instead of being quick to judge about how bad things are when they don’t go our way, move your consciousness to a higher level of awareness and understand that EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON and that when one door closes, another will open.

Once we adopt a judgment of a situation, we close ourselves to different possibilities. We lose our perspective and sometimes the opportunity to create different outcomes. If we judge a day as bad, it sometimes becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy because we live and react out of
the belief that it is a bad day. When we have faith that the dots in our lives will connect, and choose to believe that everything is happening to serve our greater purpose, will be able to live our lives with peace of mind and confidence.

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An Open Letter to All Those Who Are Disappointed With Trump’s Win

What We Can Learn from Donald Trump’s Win

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First of all, let me just say that I am not a supporter of Trump. I was appalled and disgusted by his sexism, dishonesty, racism and selfishness. Like most rational people, I was sorely disappointed that Hillary Clinton, the most qualified candidate, did not win. It seemed that the American people had been taken in by a great con artist who played on their fears and dreams.

What can we learn from this? What does this mean? How do we explain this to our children?

I always believe that it is not the experiences we have that shape our lives. It is what we choose to focus on and our interpretation of these events that ultimately shape our thoughts, emotions, actions and destiny. We can choose to interpret things in a way that empowers us to become better people or give meaning to experiences in a way that disempowers us.

It is easy to draw the worst lessons from Trump’s win. I have heard people say:
”This proves that working hard, doing your homework and being qualified is no longer important. Ultimately, it is the person who bullshits the most who will get the job”.
“ It’s okay to be ignorant, racist, sexist and vulgar. As long as you prey on people’s fears, you will win” …

If these are the lessons we take away from all this, then it would be a tragedy.

Is there anything truly good we can learn from this? I believe there is. One good thing you can learn from Trump is his ‘never say die’ attitude to fight to the very end, in the face of insurmountable odds. Almost everyone was against him (and rightly so). The media, the party elites, the world laughed at him, written him off countless times and threw everything they could at him. Celebrities and billionaires from Lady Gaga to Warren Buffett denounced him. Billions were spent on negative ads to discredit him daily.

Yet, he continued to campaign with his unshakable confidence. He believed in his own bullshit so much that it became real (he said the polls were fake… they were really inaccurate). In a way, it reminds me of Steve Jobs who created his own reality distortion field. They both believed in his own bullshit so much that the bullshit became real. In the words of George Costanza on Seinfeld, “ Jerry, It is not a lie… if you believe it”. Am I advocating dishonesty? Of course not! The lesson to learn is the power of self-belief in creating the reality we want. Always believe in yourself, even if the whole world doesn’t and you will prevail. Let’s learn the good traits from Trump and disregard the bad ones.

Imagine if you were 70 years old (Trump’s age), would you have the stamina and fortitude to keep fighting and speaking at multiple events in multiple states with almost no chance of winning? He did. And that is something we can all learn from. So, no matter how old you are and no matter how hopeless the situation, you keep fighting! You keep pushing! Anything is possible!

God Does Not Give Us What We Want. He Gives Us What We Need.

I have had some religious people say to me, “ Why did God allow Trump to be President? It’s not fair that good things happen to bad people”. As they questioned their faith, I said to them, “God Does Not Give Us What We Want. He Gives Us What We Need”.

I cannot profess to know about God’s plan but here is a theory that I choose to believe. I believe that God gives us what we deserve and what we need.

Maybe after years of sacrifice and public service, Hillary deserves to take a break and finally take care of herself and her family. She has done enough for others. Maybe at the age of 70 herself, it is best she spends her last 10-20 years with people who truly love her than solving the world’s conflicts and be defending attacks from adversaries for the next 8 years. Maybe she has earned her dues. Maybe by losing, she actually won her life back.

After criticizing Obama’s administration for doing a lousy job and bragging about how easy it is to make America great again, Trump is getting what he deserves… which is to be in the President’s shoes and learning how difficult the job truly is. If you look at his body language when he went to the White house, it’s saying, ‘God! What have I gotten myself into?’

Maybe through this experience, Trump will learn about how to become a better person. Maybe that’s God’s plan for him. With the world’s problems now on his shoulders, having to face and answer to millions of people who now depend on him for their future, maybe he will finally grow spiritually and develop empathy, compassion and respect for others. Again, God does not give us what we want. He gives us what we need.

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Three Principles That Will Skyrocket Your Career to the Next Level

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Be Inspired by the Iron Nun

The only limits are in our own mind! We all have tremendous potential to do what most people think is impossible . When we activate our potential with the power of our beliefs, we can achieve anything we set our mind to!
Whenever I feel tired to workout, I would draw inspiration from Sister Madonna Buder who at age 86, was competing in her 40th Iron Man Triathlon- consisting of a 2.4-mile (3.86 km) swim, a 112-mile (180.25 km) bicycle ride and a marathon 26.22-mile (42.20 km) run, raced in that order and without a break.

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Success is Discovering Your Gifts and Developing Them to the Fullest

“All of us are born gifted in our own unique ways . We are all born for a purpose and with unique talents and passions that are inherent in us to do what we are meant to do. I believe the job of educators is to help each person discover and develop their talents to their fullest Potential.”

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The Meaning of Unconditional Love

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As I watched the 2nd US Presidential debates yesterday and saw how Donald Trump attacked Hillary and Bill Clinton, I was moved by how their marriage and relationship has been able to stand the test of time, adversity, attack and criticism. No matter what, they have always stuck together, hand in hand and supported each other. That is what true marriage is all about.
Knowing that everyone makes mistakes and being able to love unconditionally and being able to forgive each other is what true love is. One of the reasons I have never been able to stay upset or angry with anyone for long (I tend to forgive and get over things within a day) is that I remember a quote when I was young ” To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you”.

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You Create Your Own Reality

You create your own reality based on your mindset and what you choose to believe. If you choose to believe that life in amazing, full of opportunities and full of joy, that is what you will experience every day. That is what you will see and attract. If you choose to believe that life sucks, the government sucks, people are bad, that is what you will experience as well. There is no meaning in life… except the meaning you chose to give. The day you realize that you create your own world is the day you realize you have the power to control and change your world.

You Can Change The Direction of the Train With Your Mind, Just Think About It

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