Comments on: A Perfect Solution to Spoilt and Lazy Brats! http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/ Adam Khoo On Success, Business And Life Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:32:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: beena thomas http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-12366 beena thomas Tue, 14 Aug 2007 13:00:51 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-12366 may be i should send myself on a trade mission may be i should send myself on a trade mission

]]> By: Disappointed Mum http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-6010 Disappointed Mum Sun, 29 Apr 2007 05:33:04 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-6010 I mother of only son is also having problems with my kids daily. My perspection is as a mum's responsilibity I try my best to give the best, is this wrong?? Despite, explaining, slow talk it doesn't help at all. My son now even learn to tell lies becoming more and more lazy like slipping his schoolworks, wake up as late as 1pm on weekends. He has no responsibility as to went to prepare for school, tuition & etc. Rude and Selfishness & Pretending is what he is doing now. I really don't know what to do with him now. I very fear to go back home after work everyday cos I do not know how to get close to him. I think " I REALLY HATE HIM " I mother of only son is also having problems with my kids daily. My perspection is as a mum’s responsilibity I try my best to give the best, is this wrong?? Despite, explaining, slow talk it doesn’t help at all. My son now even learn to tell lies becoming more and more lazy like slipping his schoolworks, wake up as late as 1pm on weekends. He has no responsibility as to went to prepare for school, tuition & etc. Rude and Selfishness & Pretending is what he is doing now. I really don’t know what to do with him now. I very fear to go back home after work everyday cos I do not know how to get close to him. I think ” I REALLY HATE HIM “

]]> By: Yixiong http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2876 Yixiong Wed, 28 Feb 2007 19:12:08 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2876 Respect has to be earned, not taken. Yeah, even though that brat is so rude, it only goes to show the mother didn't earn the respect that she should deserve. On the other, hand, the boy treating her like that is absolutely going overboard because of the fact that she is his mother. I mean, can anybody imagine the pain a mother must go through to carry the child and to raise him thereafter?! In this case, both sides have their own faults, although i would say i would rather be on the mother's side. Respect has to be earned, not taken. Yeah, even though that brat is so rude, it only goes to show the mother didn’t earn the respect that she should deserve. On the other, hand, the boy treating her like that is absolutely going overboard because of the fact that she is his mother. I mean, can anybody imagine the pain a mother must go through to carry the child and to raise him thereafter?! In this case, both sides have their own faults, although i would say i would rather be on the mother’s side.

]]> By: Judson http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2637 Judson Wed, 21 Feb 2007 07:35:43 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2637 This remind me of the show "super nanny", about the nanny who taught this type of children in england. If of any help, I would love to suggest that particular mum to read up that super nanny's book. Cheers Judson This remind me of the show “super nanny”, about the nanny who taught this type of children in england. If of any help, I would love to suggest that particular mum to read up that super nanny’s book.

Cheers
Judson

]]> By: theresa http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2636 theresa Wed, 21 Feb 2007 07:23:15 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2636 haha! i agree with what you said. as an educator myself, i agree that no program or school can help the child if his primary authorities are not taking any responsibility to discipline him. education starts at home and discipline is caught not taught most of the time. if parents fail to educate their children, someone else will or his eventual circumstances will. sometimes, we have to be unkind to be kind. my suggestion: spank him. haha! i agree with what you said. as an educator myself, i agree that no program or school can help the child if his primary authorities are not taking any responsibility to discipline him. education starts at home and discipline is caught not taught most of the time. if parents fail to educate their children, someone else will or his eventual circumstances will. sometimes, we have to be unkind to be kind.

my suggestion: spank him.

]]> By: kelvin http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2606 kelvin Tue, 20 Feb 2007 15:44:02 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2606 1 thing since when is the last time you praise your kid at any great stuff he/she did .. ? that answers your question . 1 thing since when is the last time you praise your kid at any great stuff he/she did .. ? that answers your question .

]]> By: Calvin http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2543 Calvin Mon, 19 Feb 2007 16:13:25 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2543 Hmm... yeah i agree with you on that.. Kids nowadays are realy spoilt. Even my cousin shouts at his mum and orders her around like she is her maid. Proper upbringing is really vital in shaping a child's beliefs and values, which will ultimately have a huge bearing on a person's success. Though I do not believe in physical punishments, but I do see a strong need for parents to instil in their children to display the proper respect and courtesy that everyone deserves to receive. Regards, Calvin Hmm… yeah i agree with you on that.. Kids nowadays are realy spoilt. Even my cousin shouts at his mum and orders her around like she is her maid.

Proper upbringing is really vital in shaping a child’s beliefs and values, which will ultimately have a huge bearing on a person’s success.

Though I do not believe in physical punishments, but I do see a strong need for parents to instil in their children to display the proper respect and courtesy that everyone deserves to receive.

Regards,

Calvin

]]> By: angel za http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2514 angel za Mon, 19 Feb 2007 08:26:31 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2514 ps: maybe i should send myself on a trade mission. ps: maybe i should send myself on a trade mission.

]]> By: taymastery http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2496 taymastery Mon, 19 Feb 2007 05:52:11 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2496 I sympathise with that lady... Her son sure needs some lecturing... on the spot TTP ;-P But beyond that, I think if I were you I'd challenge that particular lady to see beyond the convention. What I mean by that is I believe it's NOT the WORDS (I will kill you) that need to be addressed but rather the EMOTION behind it... ie, what is the EMOTION his son is trying to convey by using 'death' as a 'threat' TO HIS OWN MOTHER! If you were to look from this perspective, the limelight is no longer on the son but rather the MOTHER... (and I am really sorry to say that) There must be certain actions that her mother undertook that cause her son to feel such intense EMOTION. Perhaps in the past, she ignored her son's feelings and made all of the choices for him and her son LOATHE it... despite all the screamings and cries and endless pleads... her mom still refused to allow him to choose or at least, allow him to voice his opinions... thus, he has to RESORT to using 'death' as a 'threat' in order to win her attention over and get her to 'listen'. I sympathise with that lady…

Her son sure needs some lecturing… on the spot TTP ;-P

But beyond that, I think if I were you I’d challenge that particular lady to see beyond the convention.

What I mean by that is I believe it’s NOT the WORDS (I will kill you) that need to be addressed but rather the EMOTION behind it… ie, what is the EMOTION his son is trying to convey by using ‘death’ as a ‘threat’ TO HIS OWN MOTHER!

If you were to look from this perspective, the limelight is no longer on the son but rather the MOTHER… (and I am really sorry to say that) There must be certain actions that her mother undertook that cause her son to feel such intense EMOTION.

Perhaps in the past, she ignored her son’s feelings and made all of the choices for him and her son LOATHE it… despite all the screamings and cries and endless pleads… her mom still refused to allow him to choose or at least, allow him to voice his opinions… thus, he has to RESORT to using ‘death’ as a ‘threat’ in order to win her attention over and get her to ‘listen’.

]]> By: Patrick Tan http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/comment-page-1/#comment-2495 Patrick Tan Mon, 19 Feb 2007 05:50:29 +0000 http://www.adam-khoo.com/65/a-perfect-solution-to-spoilt-and-lazy-brats/#comment-2495 Perhaps you can start a training camp on that .... :) To allow these kids who have been spoilt to see the reality of the world and be grateful that they are living in Singapore and not struggling in some 3rd world country. I used to pity these kids as it's their parents who did not take the responsbility of taking their kids in good hands, they leave it to the teachers in school. The parents should start to reflect on themselves too. Perhaps you can start a training camp on that …. :)

To allow these kids who have been spoilt to see the reality of the world and be grateful that they are living in Singapore and not struggling in some 3rd world country.

I used to pity these kids as it’s their parents who did not take the responsbility of taking their kids in good hands, they leave it to the teachers in school. The parents should start to reflect on themselves too.

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