Sorry for this late reply. Yes, you are probably very right that it meets your need for certainty. While you can find other ways to meet that same need, the old way (cleanliness) has already become a habit/pattern in your neurology. To break any habit, there are a series of steps that you can go through.

1)Associate pain to this limiting old pattern (i.e. Cleanliness)
Write down and visualize all the pain it is costing you in your life. What are the consequences of holding on to it/ How is it affecting your marriage, work etc… Unless it is an absolute MUST for you to let go, you will keep holding this pattern

2) Break the limiting pattern
The next step is to break the old pattern by using NLP techniques like submodalities, swish pattern, anchoring and erasure techniques. You can read about the whole process in ‘Master Your Mind, Design Your Destiny’ or attend NLP programmes like my ‘Patterns of Excellence’ programme where we will coach you through the whole process. You need to re-condition your mind to HOW IT REPRESENTS germs, cleanliness etc..

3) Associate lots of benefits and pleasure to the new alternative (i.e. God)
Write down and visualize yourself receiving all the certainty and security you need from this new source.

4) Condition the New pattern

5) Future Pace
Keep seeing yourself in future situations where you ignore the need to clean or to avoid things you think are dirty and to carry on as per normal

Your article on 6 human emotional needs is so good and revelent to me. FYI, I am suffering from this Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and I am obsessed about cleanliness. I like things to be clean and I have sought help from Drs & many Pschologists who doesn’t seem to be able to help me.

After reading your article, I realise the reason why I can’t break free from my obsessiveness in cleanliness…it is because it meets my need for “Certainty”. You see, I don’t get any sense of security from my husband as I live in fear of his temper and anger problem. Hence being clean meets my Certainty need as when I feel clean, I feel comfortable and secure especially my bed. In your article, you have advised to break free from addiction, I have to find my alternative way to meet my certainty need.

So, let’s say if I find my alternative way to get security from God……and I do feel secure about God…..but how come I am still addicted to getting security from being clean eg I like all my things to be wiped clean before I use it….and if it is dirty, I feel yucky and not at peace & I dont like this feeling.

Kindly advise.

Regards
Madeline Ong

Hey adam , i’m another fan and supporter of yours from Malaysia. I’m actually 14 years and 8 months old. I have many things in common with you. You are my only inspiration. Every day when i wake in the morning ,the first thing i see is your books because i will read it and keep it beside me on my bed every night.
When i first started to be interested in creating wealth ,it was like 4 month ago. The things that motivated me to do that was quite strong(I’ll talk about it later). But i couldn’t buy a book about it because i didn’t have any money(by the way, i come from a poor family) and another thing was that i didn’t know which book to buy until i saw your book in the bookstore. And i end up borrowing money from my dad to buy your book, but deep down i understand that i made one of the most important decision in my life.
As i said before that i came from a poor family, i knew that if i don’t make a move to change things around me, my generations below will probably suffer more. So i made up my mind. As you said before in your books that we must know why we want to be rich. And frankly I am telling you here what pushes me everyday. Even when i write these things down I feel like crying. And most importantly , what my parents went through was 10 times harder than my life. We were looked down from our relatives. I know that i shouldn’t be writing down this much things but i really don’t know who to tell.
Anyways…i think that i have a lot things in common with u .I hope to get your e-mail add so that i can tell u more. Mine’s realfan7.leg@gmail.com.
Thanx for listening to my pieces of crap. Really appreciate your time.

I hope i can assist you in your question.
I don’t think the more successful u get the less time u have and the more stress u have.

Its total opposite.
I mean
the less successful u are
= more time u work
= the less time u spend with your family
= the more stress u have

The more successful u are
= lesser time u work
= more time for your family
= less stress!

although i have to say that you’ll always have stress and problems.